Posted: Mon Jul 31, 2006 6:15 am Post subject: Stupid question.
Is it bad for a Furry to have a non-furry boy/girlfriend? Does it really even matter? I was just wondering, because it seems rather strange for a furry to pair off with a regular person. I started thinking about it yesterday; I have a non-furry boyfriend, and stuff just isn't working out between us. I have to wonder if it might have something to do with my furriness. Just asking. _________________ ~Ginny~
If stuff doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out. BUt your being a furry should have nothing to do with it. _________________
Mate: Sarafina (my one and only, my soul mate...)
yeah....I'm a few things that Tecoon isn't, we don't let it get in the way.
& if your bf ever makes fun of you for being a fur (or anything for that matter), then that's a big warning sign. But if you care about the person, things like that shouldn't get in the way _________________ I'm a white thylacine with turqoise stripes, eyes, & hair.
Thing is, I used to really love him. The thing is, he's started being all dominating, and I don't want to be submissive. Let me rephrase that; I WON'T be submissive. It's not in my nature. And he doesn't know I'm a furry. Which is worse than him teasing me about it, I think. I tried to tell him, but he just got all confused and kept going 'huh? I don't get it' until I finally just told him never mind. Then he didn't care anymore. Which is another thing.
But, yeah. I'm sorry. This is off topic. _________________ ~Ginny~
I agree with Tecoon. Maybe it doesnt work out. Hes right too that being a furry or not shouldnt affect it, but another fur should understand you alot better. My ex-girl freind wasnt exactly an "animal lover". It didnt really affect us directly, but eventually it went crazy. _________________ If you don't understand me, don't worry. I understand.
I've been in your shoes. Dominating guys suck. Yeah if it makes you uncomfortable, never stand for it. _________________ I'm a white thylacine with turqoise stripes, eyes, & hair.
I've been in your shoes. Dominating guys suck. Yeah if it makes you uncomfortable, never stand for it.
Thank you.I'll have to think about whenever I find a new mate*sighs* if I find one, someone alot better than my ex-girl... _________________ If you don't understand me, don't worry. I understand.
I've been in your shoes. Dominating guys suck. Yeah if it makes you uncomfortable, never stand for it.
Mmm. But I'm wondering if it's just a phase or something. He wasn't like that before. And I've been trying to tell him to...you know, back off. But it's hard to find a polite way to say it. _________________ ~Ginny~
I wish I could give some truly helpful advice but seeing I have never been in
a relation my self I am not sure what to say in light of that.
However I have seen many relationships from others. And I will say this
people can and some times do change during a relationship sometimes this
is good. I find most times it is not. Some will act a certain way when getting
into a relation mostly to impress. After a wile some that might not be all that
they are in the beginning will settle into there own real self. When they feal comfortable
to do so. And this change can happen at any time. This is when you can
tell just who you are really with. It is a sad fact. But not true of all. And the way he
is tourds you now might be a sine of things to come. So I say to you
If you really wont him! Continue to tell him more of who you are and the things you
like. And try to juge him by how he reacts to this. If it seams he dose not care
or seems put off by this. And you are not willing to give up the things you like for
him. This might be hard to hear but he might not be the one for you and staying
with him especially if he seams some how critical of you just might make staying
in the relation a burden and will most likely make you vary unhappy for a long time.
I have seen it happen. And it is not a good thing. Some what good news is if you do
dissuade to brake up with him there are many more out there. And as far as finding a
felo furry male well, there are far more of them then fem furrs. And many of them
looking for a relationship. Do be careful thou some are just looking for a quick yiffing.
And yes any guy you do dissuade to be with dose not have to be a furry him self.
He onle has to love you the way you would like him to. And most important
let him whoever you are with know how you would like him to love you. Don't be
afraid to do that. And I am not just talking about sex. But how you wont to be with
him at all times.
If and only if you do dissuade to brake up consider this I have seen as well some that
have broken up from a bad relation finding and some times right away some one
not perfect but vary right for them. And I tell you they are living vary happy now.
G-Fox! Thank you for the HUGE answer!
Well ginny, I might not be an expert in this section... BUT! I can tell you that people's likes and dislikes change over time. You might of use to like him, but after you learned more about him it sounds like he is mean!
You being a furry should not have any effect on your relationship, but if you dont like him, than just say that!
What I hate is when people can say they like someone else without accualy knowing them first. HA! Right now, I am listing to the song "Let it be." I guess you should be yourself, do what your emotions tell you to. They are a tool of the human mind, use them. (Yes all living multi-celuar things have emoition, they are needed to survive.) Personaly I belive that all people have a bit-o-furry in them, just takes certain things them bring it out. (I like to ask people, "if you were an animal, what would you be" for no reason, it makes a fun conversation!) GO GINNY! Great, now the song switched to "Fat bottemed girls." >.> allright than.. _________________ Hamsters for life!
-=Should the need arise to wiggle to the right till feelings the resistance=-
I <3 Sel
Hahah, wow, I forgot about posting this.
I broke up with him a LONG time ago. Then there was me and Stuart...err, Dante...let's just go with killerlove. Then that died. And now...I'm being stretched between 6 guys, 4 of which are online :'(
It's...uncomfortable. _________________ ~Ginny~
Sounds like you need the ghost busters!
GHOST BUSTERS GO!
*Kicks in the door and charges into a house*
DIE GHOSTS! *Shoots plasma lasers at everything* DIEEEEeeeee.....
<.< >.> I think we got'em! No charge Ginny, just doing my job.
Wait, your not ginny, and this is the wrong house! DARN!
*Goes to jail for destroying a random persons house.*
Dont worry ginny, once I do my time I will help you as much as I can! ^-^
Let me just say, "If your being stretched, than... Umm... Just be friends with them?"
Sorry, I cant help you with relations Ginny, =( wish I could but I dont know what to say! One is the number and the number is one! Or just log off? _________________ Hamsters for life!
-=Should the need arise to wiggle to the right till feelings the resistance=-
I <3 Sel
Wh.. What?! Well, allright than... I guess the would has no more use for the ghostbusters anymore.. =(
BUT! You did fix your own problem, and that's good! Glad the Ghostbusters could help! If we even did... Once agean a bit putdown... I am gona go be depressed over there. z.z _________________ Hamsters for life!
-=Should the need arise to wiggle to the right till feelings the resistance=-
I <3 Sel
Perk up medic, there are plenty of ghosts out there to BUST. I personally keep an ectoplasmic 'dissuador' on me.
I'm in love (& loved back) by a non-fur and she thinks its fun (miaows, whines & purs permeate our calls from both sides) but methinks she doesn't quite 'get' what my furryness is (not that I fully do myself but meh). Happily it hasn't caused us any trouble really. Only catch is no more being "cute" around some of my close female friends (also non furrs). She's (sometimes slightly annoyingly) territorial that way & we've had a couple rough moments but nothing due to my furryness really. Part of the reason I love her too ^_^
Congrats Ginny on your success =3 May their ghosts not haunt you.
Well I think Sagax sums up this question. Yes, it dose work out.
You are lucky Sagax. Love is hard to find. Then again no luck at all or that is needed. Form the sounds of it you may be a lady's man.
Ginny or to any fem furrs or any fem's out there. You say you don't like Dominating guys?
Some how I don't think that is true. Women I find seem to gravitate towards the dominant types.
Why? Because they are exciting! The take charge types seem to really turn women on. Mostly sexually.
Others don't seem worth the look. Problem for males is some would wait for a female to show some
interest in them. Know what they never will. A guy has to have far more then the gut's to say Hi to a female
he has an interest in or he winds up falling in under friend not hot sexy lover as most to all men wish to be seen as by a potential mate. Thus we have the Dominating guys. You may find more of them as guys in
general are learning of this. Guys are finding if you are not a dominant type male in some way you get no ware. In truth it make a lot of sense. A lot! of sense.
Ever herd the fraise "I am spending time with mister wrong wile looking for mister right." One is not looking for or paying any attention to a mister right if one is with mister wrong. He is to much of an irresistible distraction for one to even think of never mind spend any time looking for or see any mister right. What ever a mister right may be. That comes to the next thing. Who is mister right. Your guess is as good as mine.
But if a Dominating guy mister wrong type is what women go for I may very much in need to rethink my self.
Nice guy dose not cut it. I am tiered of being looked at as just a friend as the Dominating guys woman complain about get all the fun.
Be that as it may. I do even if I might not seem it, I have talked to other women and not only agree with this statement I have given, some came to me with this as the way things are. As I have said before on other posts (Maybe not on this site)
"Women are easy to talk to. Getting your self involved with one beyond a friend, that is getting one to see you as more then a friend. That it the hard part."
It is not just me that think this. Some women do as well.
One statement by one of them. "Yes, women make very stupid decisions when it comes to getting a guy."
Not my words....
It would seem the old saying is true "Love is blind." Be it man or woman. It would not be fare to say only women make such choices or all women. Everyone is different, even in regards to this. Guy's included.
All I am saying is that women in general tend to go for something exciting. Be it bad or good. It is only that those that are bad pull off exciting far better then others. I don't blame women for wonting "exciting".
Who would not? I know I would.
I am not trying to pull women down or say the way to get a woman is to be a jerk. Not at all.
All I am saying is nice guy dose not cut it. It is by no way enough. Just like for most guy's looks mater a lot when looking for a woman. Guy's can make just as bad a choice by choosing by looks alone. I have seen this happen as well, and a lot.
Currently I don't care as much for getting into a relationship. I don't have the time or money. Plus it just seem like a lost cause, for me anyway. It is not worth the time or effort for me to try any more. Plus I don't care to change my self that much just to attract someone. O well...
You can be angry or shocked but it is just how I see it, some of it based on what I have seen and been told.
If you find someone that works for you that is grate! If not remember you did get yourself involved with this person based on what ever it was. To me it seem like all too much a big mess to bother with. To me no one is worth the trouble. I use to think so but not anymore. Then again I have never been involved or experienced it to say if it all is. For those still on that life long quest for that someone "Perfect!" All I can say is good luck. You will need it. Mostly now er-days.
O and Burn that picture was pretty good! I am sure it dose indeed express what most might have felt seeing my last post on this. That is as both Ginny and Sarafina seem to say it has for them.
Yes, my post was not nice or fare, but it was real that is as I see it.
"Things base and vile, holding no quantity,
Love can transpose to form and dignity.
Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind;
And therefore is wing'd Cupid painted blind.
Nor hath love's mind of any judgment taste;
Wings and no eyes figure unheedy haste:
And therefore is love said to be a child,
Because in choice he is so oft beguil'd."
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