I want a girlfriend!

LilZero · I want a girlfriend!

NOW! >_<

Medic

This should be in the Wish Corruption Game.

LilZero.. I cant think of anything to say to you...

LilZero

A corruption game?

And I know you cant think of anything to say to me.

Medic

The wish corruption game! It's in the game section!

Well lil-zero, you cant just ask for something and expect to get it. Even if you did instently get a girlfriend, how would you know if you liked her or she likes you? Dont demand things you do not deserve! Even if you do deserve a girlfriend, that does not give you the right to be so greedy as to order one for yourself as if a girlfriend is some sort of thing you buy at a store!
I really did have things I wanted to say to you, but I was to ashamed of you to say them...

LilZero

If you were ashamed to say something to me, then why did you make this post? XD

Sorry, I am in a joking mood now.

LilZero

And wait, if you really had things to say to me, why didnt you just say it when I first joined this place? Besides I doubt any of you guys have anything to say to me. I dont really know if you guys ever liked me.

Medic

What! Hey now Lil-Zero, we do like you! Just because we never have anything to say to you dosent mean we hate you- Think for a moment- Have you ever had anything to say to us?

Dont be sorry for being in a joking mood! It's ok to joke if your jokeing!
The reason why I say it in the first post, is because I felt sorry for you. But then your second post changed my mind! ^-^ So I posted!

Trust me, If we dident like you, you would know. You just need to post in subjects that relate to others, or something like that. It's hard to be friends with someone you cant communicate with! ..Even I should post more, but I dont know what to post about- I am still afraid that people dont like me, or would even post back.
That's what I hate about forms!

LilZero

Well I thought you all always hated me. And why feel sorry for me? There is nothing you should really be sorry for, you didn't cause a problem or anything. And besides, you shouldn't be scared if we don't like you. It seems like everyone here loves you.

Medic

Wow I wish!
If only it was true that way for me, Lil-zero.
Besides, I never hated you! No one here hates you!
Am I scared to post? Yes! Every time! Just the thought of messing up.. One wrong word.. It scares me...
I thought that everyone here hated me! Yet thought they liked you!

LilZero

*Hugs Medic*

Calm down buddy. No one hates you, believe it.

Medic

*Hugs back*

Thanks lil-zero! ^-^
It means alot to me.

Trust me when I say no one here hates you either, including me!

LilZero

*Holds Medic and cuddles him*

You're welcome, Medic! ^_^
Well I try to help people, even if I fail at it.

I will keep that in mind.

Sarafina

Finding a gf/bf is rough. Because it's all up to chance.
Either you get the right one (if so, wonderful!), OR...you get the wrong one. And if THAT happens it will affect you for the rest of your life andd greatly in future relationships =(
I picked the wrong one twice. And it's messed with my head ever since & has a big negative effect on Tecoon & I (seeing how one GREATLY traumatized me)

Gah. hope that doesn't sound too negative. O_O I don't mean it to. But I always try to stress this with people due to things I've experienced so they don't go through the same horrible ordeals

LilZero

Thanks Sara! Its just...everyone I know has a girlfriend/boyfriend. It gets SO annoying to hear that...and then you're the only one who doesn't have anyone...

Medic

Hey now Lil-Zero, I dont have a girlfriend! But strangely, I dont feel bad about it at all- even when I see others that do have them, it dosent really affect me.

If you dont have a girl friend, you shouldent be sad about it- and you shouldent try to rush into a relation ship with someone you know nothing about just out of desperation, or without any true feelings for that other person.

Then again, I dont understand much about other peoples emotions.. Or even my own.

LilZero

But why do a lot of other relationships like to throw it at other people's faces like if they want others to care?

Sarafina

It's ok I understand. I know it's hard seeing so many people paired up when you're alone =( *hugs*

But trust me, it's not worth it if you get paired up with someone awful out of haste
(and I know it never seems like the person is awful when you first get with them lol)
Sadly looking at some of my other posts I think I may be guilty of bragging about my relationship. I certianly don't mean to. I know how annoying it can be! @_@;

But hey NO relationship is perfect despite what movies try to make you believe Wink

Wow am I ever rambling...I'm getting old! >_< LOL

Medic

I do think there is a difference from being "Paired Up" with someone, and being compleatly alone! When your in good company, among friends, you are not alone.

Lil-Zero. Some people treat relationships like a Badge- A way to compare the status of other people. It works in proveing to others their "better badge" rank.
Because they think/know you have no relationship, they are able to brag about the one that they have, only because you dont have one! That same relationship wouldent be bragging so much to a couple who has a better relationship then they do.

Many people gain a sense of acomplishment when they acheivments are thought to be greater then the acheivments of others. This sense of acomplishment can be very enjoyable- and we all know humans in general seek pleasure, or enjoyment.
If they compare their acheivments with someone who they think has a lesser acheivment then theirs, that will give them the feeling of acomplishment- and the enjoyment- that they were aiming to gain.

LilZero

*Hugs back*

But sometimes it feels like I will never find anyone. It is hopeless. And besides, if they think it is an achievement or something, why don't they hop off a bridge and see if that is "achieving" enough? *Shrugs and sighs*

G-Fox

In a way LilZero I know whare you are coming from. Yes, It would seem for some of those without a relationship that others who speek of theres that thay are bragging. In a way thay are. But not in the way you may think. Thay are not perpously trying to make you feal bad about your life by pointing out to you what thay have that you do not. Even if that is what you may feel is what is going on. I too feel the burn of this. It is not there falt for are mis fortune. I like to read about the relationships of others regardless of what it may make me feel about myself. Thay are just trying to show what is going on in thare lives. Take notes. Liston to what is going on. Not all is roses. As Sarafina said "NO relationship is perfect." See how the good ones work. Look at how the bad ones fale. Lern from the mistakes. Lern how to make it good and how to make it last. Even if you are in a good one it still may not last unless you work at it. Yes, you still must work at it just as hard to keep the one you are with as much if not more at times than to get some one.
You must as well be able to alow you self the option of leaving the one you are with if things do not work out. Staying in a bad realtion as I have seen can be far wors then being alone.

I am in the same boat my friend. I to feel I will never find anyone myself. Maybe I never will. Just asking like this will not work. Well, at least not to my knolige. But hay at least you are trying. But try not to let stories from others of there relationships get you down. That will only send you down into a pit of dark depreshon that you don't wont to be in. It may even make you do things you may regret for the rest of your life. Things that will eat at you far wors then being alone. Try not to think of others trying to make you feel bad by sharing there good fortune. That I am quite sure is not there intent. Not by a long shot.

O and Sarafina about your tales of you an Tecoon don't sweat it. I my self dipite my disposition if you don't mind me saying so I like to read. It is good to me to see someone enjoying a good relationship as so it seem you have dispite serten complations I will not get into.

Sorry LilZero I can't give you any advice on how you can get with anyone as I my self have not. Dispite the fact I have maneged to help at least one do so. But I knew more about him and his curent situation. To say the least he was gratfull I did help. He has been though sevral relations sence then but at least he has.

Funny I can help others but not myself. Reminds me of an old saying. "Thouse that can't... Teach." Smile

It dose seem hopeless at times. All I can say is stick with and try not to get to discouraged.
Lady's I mean no insult. You may not like what I am going to say. But I found it mostly to be true.
LilZero. Let me give you a clue. The lady's, meny of them are looking for two kind of guy's. One as a friend and one to sleep with. One that will comfert them thorough there bad times and one the all male macho type. The reson I say thay are two types is becous. Well, some don't get it that the ones that are the macho types got that way by beeing hard and in some ways less sensitive to the felings of others or just less sensitive to feelings in genaral. Point in case in the thought that being sensitive is to be soft and weak. In other words un manly. They wont that I am a man look about them. They are in a sence vain. Wile the other types are so cought up in the harship of living and can understand the harships of others are not genraly the mocho types. They are not conserned as much with the ideals of self image that they do not look or see as being sensitive as beeing weak or are just not as vain on this or self image to care. This is not always the case. This is very hard to explane. But if you wont to impress the lady's You must give up some of your self and try to change your image a little. Look at it this way. Look at women in genaral. What looks atractive to you? What looks atractive to anyone? I am not just talking about phisical looks but how one represents them selves.

Men are vain. Women are just as vain. You must apere atractive before you can get them to really know you. Get what I meen? Gust like men. Women wont someone that looks good. Think of it this way as well.
Do you wont the one you are with to have someone that looks bad in some way. If you love this person don't you wont to look good for them. I know I know vanity is consiterd sinfull. But only those that make it must have a serten sence of vanity in them at least enough to wont to make them selves look presentible in one way or another. Let me tell you almost nothing on line says looser like right out saying "I wont a mate" or "I wont a woman". That only works if you are at like a bar and you are dam good looking like a big fighter or something and shout out woman here now! Then and only then you may get a responce.

That image you may need to work on as well. It might work but as some have said you may not like who you get.

Dam I got to stop now! !!! LOL ^.^

LilZero

Its cool man. Dude, just think of it, the only girlfriend I do have is my video games. Lets just not discuss girlfriends ever again. I seriously get tired of this...well are we allowed to say the "S" word? Meh, just oh well.

Medic

G-Fox does make some good points- if you take the time to read his post.

Personaly I found G-Fox's post to be interesting! Even if there are some things that I would enjoy discussing/debating...

But for Lil-Zeros sake, I wont go into any Girlfriend themed subjects. Good to know your question is solved, Lil-Zero!
(What is the "S" word?)

G-Fox

Well, Medic I would not say LilZero's problem is solved and as to my response I was just guessing as to why he might be having a hard time getting with someone. Image means a lot to many. Even to some degree to my self. Do to his response to the subject "Post piccies of yourself" I can only guess that he has a self image problem with himself like I have with myself. This is only a guess.

A guy at the gym I go to I just found out he himself has no one. And he is the last person I would suspect that would be single. As Sarafina has said some times it is just chance. In his case I would just say he is just to dedicated to working out to get himself involved with someone. In that case I don't feel for him. If he wont's some he can get it any time.

For a guy like my self I can't just leave it up to chance. One must do what one can to more then even the odds but to tip them in my favor. Changing ones self image is one way to do that. Well, that is in my case. I can't say I look horrible. I am 5'3" at a weight of 135 lbs. And farley strong I can push the tread mills to there max of 12 mil per hr and dead lift up to 320 lb. That suprised me. But as far as self image I have a long way to go.

To LilZero the video games I here you man. You are talking to a once mager video game addict. I could play games all day. No joke. All day!

One question like Medic asked what is the "S" word? That has been bugging me.

Medic

I think it's safe to say we all have self image problems, myself included. (I am a bit indecisive, I think) The problem with having a self image is that it might not be the image that others see us as!

By self image do you mean the way we look, or the way we are? I don't think that just working out will improve self image as much as it does health. Why would going to the gym tip odds to your favor?! Being social can be very helpful if you wanna get into a relationship.

Video games.. They are so appealing and fun! Slowly they corrupt your life, harder to get addicted than it is to quit. Zfurry helped me break my addiction, ya I used to play games all the time too! But I think I might be getting addicted again..

Sill don't know what the "S" word is!..

LilZero

Video games...I am too addicted into it. My Pokemon Diamond already have over 200 gameplay hours. Told ya, video games are my girlfriends!

The S word= S before hit.

Medic

Darn Lil-Zero! That is alot of gameplay hours!
What would you do if you had no power? Or lost your games?!

Ya, she might look like a good girlfriend now- but trust me, she's just using you! Don't believe her, she's cheating on you! You might think your the perfect match, but right when you turn your back, Bam! She's in the hands of someone else! Curse that backstabbing tramp...

(Nice new spell check system!)

G-Fox

Aaaa? Medic I don't think that will help.

As to one of your questions. What I mean by image I mean both looks an the way we are. As to the other. Yes, working out will improve both heath and ones physical image. That is how it will tip the odds in my favor. This is logical. Can't be contested. After all a helthy person generally looks good. People that look good are the ones others generally look for. Yes, as you said being social can help but only to a point. I am social not very but I am. That is how I know. You have know idea how many times when I have asked someone out I was told "Ya you are a nice guy. You will make someone happy someday but you are not for me." It is a nice way of saying get lost. I may continue this but I got to go.

Medic

I thought it helped... Need to warn others of Video Games treacherous ways!

Health and physical image are good, but there is more ways to improve them then working out! Ways that are more social, and develop skills that a gym could never do.
-That one girl(or many) you asked out, do you think that if you looked better then they would of went out with you? Is that really what you want, others to love you for you looks? What happens when you grow older, and your great appearance begins to leave you, will she leave you too..?

G-Fox

To tell the truth I am changing my look for my self mostly. It as well will help with getting involved with someone In time. Right now I am not too concerned about that.

Medic you telling me that working out is not social. That going to the gym is not social. That there is a better way to develop physical fitness and social skills then going to the gym. To tell the truth I thought so once. Tell I went. I have so many new friends there you would not believe. The big guy I was telling you about earlier we are getting to know one another pretty well now. He is a very cool guy! And fun to talk to. It seems I am getting to know almost half of them there. And some old friend are there too. The gym not social. You could not convince me of that right now. It IS! a very social place. Well, it has been for me at least. And what a rush. I try to make it fun and I am getting fit at the same time. This is very important to me right now even more then finding someone. This is what I am trying to say to LilZero. I am not picking on him. It is not in my nature to put others down. Like I said It was just a guess as to his problem. As for the big guy I was telling you about I recently found his problem with being single. He is very shy about the whole thing. He is at a big of a loose as to how to get someone as I am. O make no mistake he could have most any one he wonted and he is such a nice guy. That is the problem for him. He is such a nice guy. And he wont's to find the right one. The deal is how dose he find the right one for him when about any he asked would go for him. I am at the opposite side of the spectrum.

A suggestion to LilZero. Something that got me started. Get an MP3 player and some headphones. Get some music with a beet. Something you like. Fill it with such music and jog. I did not like to jog. But after I did with the music to keep me going I found myself doing it every day and improving all the time. I will not lie. It will be tough. I could not jog a quarter of a mile before I was tired. Now I can go for 2 mils without stopping and I feel grate. It took me 1 year for me to jog that far without stopping. Another suggestion swim. It is very good for you. Nothing will work you like swimming. And swimming is fun to. This will take time. much time. There is no instant results. The big guy I hang with at the gym can tell you this. He was like me. Big and very well, Fat. with several years he is one of the most fit guys there. He looks like a sayen like on Dragon Ball Z. His goal was to look like Gohan or Goku from that. He is there. He said make it fun. Don't do it for others. Do it because you wont to. To be the way you wont to. And that is my goal as well. I am not there to impress despite that I have. I am there for me. LilZero it seams you feel you are at Zero. It may be time to put down the games and start leveling your self up. Play the games after a good work out or play time how ever you wont to put it just get active and play the games after. Trust me in time yes, a long time but in time you will not feel so much as a Zero. Gust trust in your self and do it. Time is on your side. Trust me if I a fat couch potato as I once was can do it you how ever you are can to.

G-Fox

I am not fully sure just what Medic was geting at with his coment "Health and physical image are good, but there is more ways to improve them then working out! Ways that are more social, and develop skills that a gym could never do." I wish he had said just what it was but it gave me a chance to think about it.

Yes, as he said there are other ways then just working out. There is dancing. Don't nock the idea. It can be a very active thing to get into and think about it all the ladys there. Some that would be happy to have a male partner to dance with. There are dance schools that can get you started and who knows you may find a companion for you thare. Stranger things have hapend.

Another is yoga. Like Dhalsim from Street fighter pounds into you with a hed lock. "Yoga!, yoga!, yoga!"
He wonts you to know you are bing beeten by yoga. Ok ok yoga is not for the most part a fighting skill but it can make you limber or a flexable with strangth and give you a piceful center of mind. And it too is a good way to meet the ladys.

And yet another is marchal arts. Lern a fighting skill be active and meet others there as well. As for me geting invalved with a female that can kick the shit out of me has it's apeal. Think of it. If she can do that and she wonts to be with me well, I can be sure she wonts me. Other wise she would just kick my ass. LOL! Ok yes, I am twisted. Wink

I am sure there are more but I am fresh out of ides for things like this. Any one of these can get you started and you can take them as far as you like. But you onle get what you put in. There will be much efert needed to get anything out of any of them. And a chance to meet others that you can share an intrest in.

LilZero

I would freak out if my data was lost or corrupted.